How Living Abroad Transformed Me Into a Better Person: A Journey of Growth and Self-Discovery
January 13, 2026Where Are We Headed? Reflections on Our Rapidly Changing World
January 13, 2026You know what’s funny? After years of living abroad and countless late-night conversations in expat bars from Bangkok to Buenos Aires, I’ve realized that being single overseas isn’t just about dodging commitment – it’s actually a fascinating lifestyle choice with deep historical roots. Who knew that some of history’s greatest minds were basically the original bachelor expats?
Historical Bachelors Who Changed the World
Here’s something that blew my mind: Nikola Tesla, that eccentric genius who bounced between Austria and America, was so obsessed with his inventions that he literally forgot to date. I mean, the guy was too busy revolutionizing electricity to worry about finding a wife. Talk about dedication to your craft!
Then there’s Beethoven – and oh boy, his story gets juicy. Sure, he never walked down the aisle, but let me tell you, the man wasn’t exactly living like a monk. He had more romantic entanglements than movements in his symphonies! Living with different women, passionate affairs… basically, he invented the “it’s complicated” relationship status centuries before Facebook.
Even President James Buchanan stayed single his whole life (though let’s be honest, his presidency wasn’t exactly his finest achievement). But still, it goes to show that choosing the bachelor life has been a thing way before dating apps made commitment optional.
The Modern Bachelor’s Perspective
Now here’s where it gets really interesting for us modern expats. I stumbled across this concept called geographic arbitrage – fancy term, simple idea. Picture this: you’re earning Western wages but living in a place where your morning coffee costs 50 cents instead of five bucks. Mind-blowing, right?
I actually met this guy in a Bangkok co-working space who retired at 32. Thirty-two! He’s living comfortably on $10,000 a year from dividend stocks. No mortgage, no minivan, no private school tuition – just him, his laptop, and the occasional Chang beer on the beach. The bachelor expat dream, basically.
Without kids to put through college or a partner wanting that dream house back home, suddenly that early retirement fantasy doesn’t seem so impossible anymore.
The Marriage Debate Among Expats
Okay, let’s address the elephant in the room. Spend enough time in expat communities, and you’ll hear some pretty strong opinions about marriage – especially from guys who’ve been through messy divorces. The stories can be brutal.
Take Alan Miller’s case – the poor guy was married for less than three years and ended up forking over £5 million. That’s like, what, two million pounds per year of marriage? Even luxury car rentals don’t cost that much! And don’t get me started on Ray Parlour having to pay over £400,000 annually from his future earnings. Makes you think twice about saying “I do,” doesn’t it?
Different Perspectives on Relationships
Look, I’m not here to bash marriage – plenty of my expat friends have found amazing partners abroad and are living their best lives. But I’ve also seen the flip side, and let’s be real about the perks of flying solo:
- Want to move to Bali next month? Pack your bags, no family meetings required
- That startup idea keeping you up at night? You’ve got all the time in the world to chase it
- Financial planning becomes as simple as “Can I afford this? Yes? Done.”
- No in-laws asking when you’re moving back home (huge win!)
- Your biggest scheduling conflict is choosing between beach day or mountain hike
Finding Balance in Expat Life
Through all my conversations with fellow nomads and long-termers, I’ve realized something important: there’s no perfect formula. I’ve met guys with ironclad prenups that still got taken to the cleaners, and others in beautifully unconventional arrangements that would make traditionalists’ heads spin.
Some couples live in separate apartments in the same city (genius, if you ask me). Others have “together but apart” setups where they reunite for vacations but maintain independent lives. The beauty of expat life is that you’re already breaking conventions – why not apply that to relationships too?
Reflections on the Bachelor Expat Experience
After all these years bouncing around the globe, here’s what I’ve figured out: there’s no shame in choosing the single life, just like there’s no trophy for getting married. I’ve met brilliant, successful expats who wake up alone and love it, and others who can’t imagine life without their partner making them coffee each morning.
The expat bachelor life isn’t about being anti-relationship or bitter about love. It’s about recognizing that in this crazy, connected world where you can run a business from a beach in Thailand or teach English in Prague while trading crypto on the side, the old rules just don’t apply anymore.
Whether you’re channeling your inner Tesla (minus the pigeon obsession, hopefully) or building a modern love story across continents, the real win is having the freedom to choose. And honestly? That freedom – to live, love, and explore on your own terms – might just be the greatest perk of expat life. So here’s to all of us making our own rules, one passport stamp at a time.
